How do I safely bedshare?
As a group who supports a shift in the way families manage this time in their lives and move beyond sleep training, any talk of Safe Sleep simply must include the biological normal way for babies to sleep- with their mother on a shared surface.
This does not mean that this is the ONLY way Safe Sleep can/will be found and it most certainly does not mean that bedsharing can be practiced safely by all families.
What it does give us is a base to start from.
This base that acknowledges that the idea of a solitary sleeping human infant in a cot in their own room is a social and cultural construct, not a given, and most certainly not ‘normal’ from a biological, anthropological standpoint.
This is important for how we frame our view of infant sleep and what is/isn’t a ‘problem’ and why normal infant behaviour can seem to be problematic for families.
When we recognise our babies all start with an intense need for care and closeness by day and night we can work with their natural needs to make it work for our families.
SIDS & SUDI are realities we face as parents and there are risk factors that have been recognised that increase risk of it occurring.
Life is all about risk management and the best risk management can be achieved when we are fully informed about the risks so we can make decisions based on our unique situation. No activity will ever be risk free. Risk reduction is the name of the game.
So, as a group, we will advocate for sleeping in safe situations on safe surfaces that have been properly prepared (please read how to do this in documents linked at the bottom).
We will advocate for those who can and wish to safely bedshare to have access to relevant information.