Continuing Your Parenting Growth as Your Little Ones Get Older: TBSTP Perspective
We’ve noticed as an admin team that we are getting increasing numbers of posts from parents wanting help and ideas for managing their little person’s burgeoning personality, growth and push for autonomy. People are wondering how to best handle tantrums, discipline, boundaries and new challenges and often, this is the first time these have featured in this parent’s journey. As a result, they have often defaulted to the engrained, mainstream practices that come to us quite automatically as a result of our own childhood experiences and what we have seen as accepted parenting standards around us in society.
This is where we’d like to take pause for a moment.
Just as we seek to see a shift away from the dominant sleep training culture, we believe that it is right and fair that a critical eye should be cast on all ‘accepted’ parenting practices as our children grow to ensure we make our decisions with an informed light, not just following the status quo.
This group will always have a sleep focus but we would like to lend our weight to some resources we believe will help people develop an informed approach to parenting as an extension of what you already know from here about sleep.
Many mainstream parenting practices focus heavily on control and coercion to ‘make’ the child comply to behavioural standards that have been set.
All feature in the mainstream parenting toolbox. An ‘us versus them’ mentality full of battles and winners and losers.
In many ways, this is similar to how Sleep Training works and is why, these practices seem to naturally spawn from the Sleep Training experience and the way parents choose to keep managing their child.
But there are other ways.
Ways that honour all of the humans in the relationship. No winners or losers. No battles to wage and win.
Just people working and living with people with respect for the developmental level of the youngest and most vulnerable person in the relationship and the very real need to be understood and feel connected.
The Gentle Discipline Book – Sarah Ockwell-Smith
Toddler Calm – Sarah Ockwell-Smith
Unconditional Parenting- Alfie Kohn
Toddler Tactics- Pinky McKay
Playful Parenting- Laurence Cohen
Connection Parenting- Pam Leo
No Drama Discipline- Daniel Siegel
The Whole-Brain Child- Dan Siegel
Positive Parenting- Rebecca Eanes
How to Talk so Little Kids will Listen by Joanna Faber and Julie King
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